Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

Spread awareness and bring honor to your baby #nilmdts

31 Ways to Honor Your Baby

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International Wave of Light

On October 15th at 7:00 p.m. in time zones across the world, candles will be lit for all the babies that are being honored. Help us continue that world glow and spread awareness about this special day by sharing our image.

Share your own candle images on October 15th by using #nilmdts or posting in the comments on that day! 

Share and Spread Awareness

Update your profile cover picture for the month of October. With Facebook's new limitations on profile picture frames, this alternative will still allow us to create awareness socially amongst your friends and followers.

Use our share graphics to help spread awareness. Be sure to hashtag #nilmdts on your posts! (Click on the images below for a larger view and then right click and save.)  


Personalize one of our keepsakes with your babies name or purchase awareness items to support NILMDTS. Click here to see all products.

Illuminate for Awareness

Loss mother, Daphne Grant’s lifework is to remember her babies with the same loving energy she would put into mothering them. She arranges for global landmarks to annually illuminate pink and blue on October 15th, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.

This year, Grant has booked over sixty (60) landmarks to illuminate in five countries, including our first lights ever in Eastern Europe and the Middle East. 2021 should feature over 700 landmarks illuminated for our babies worldwide.

Daphne Grant is one of many around the world committed to creating an ever-larger global movement of remembrance in lights each year on October 15th. Would you like to create new memories with your baby by illuminating a landmark? Does your city have an iconic structure that would look stunning in lights? A building, a bridge, a skyscraper, a clock tower on City Hall?

Illumination requests often start with the Mayor’s office, or by reaching out directly to a location. Some places have lighting request forms online. Many locations require a local resident to apply and are waiting for your request. Illuminating a landmark in pink and blue on October 15th, is a healing and rewarding way to parent your babies. Follow Grant’s work and seek assistance through her Facebook group, The Echo Seven Project


Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month was first declared by President Ronald Reagan on October 15, 1988. On that day he said:  

“When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes.

Now, Therefore, I, Ronald Reagan, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim the month of October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. I call upon the people of the United States to observe this month with appropriate programs, ceremonies, and activities.”